Leaving home to attend a college 2,000 miles away comes with challenges. Add in living with a stranger, and it can be even more difficult. Like many college freshmen, this was my experience. I was nervous, homesick, and lonely. I comforted myself with the hopes that I would become fast friends with my roommate, and we could support each other as we adjusted to college. I quickly learned that living with my roommate was going to be more challenging than I imagined, and a quick friendship was not going to come easily. I discovered that my roommate was autistic. I was familiar with the disability, but I had never experienced it so closely. Living with an autistic roommate presented unique challenges. However, I have discovered with a little bit of effort and a “Work of Heart” approach, it has been an opportunity for personal growth, fostering empathy, and learning effective communication skills.

Initially, I found it challenging to comprehend my roommate’s specific needs and preferences. His routines were precise, and he struggled with social interactions. Instead of allowing these differences to create distance between us and to be irritated, I chose to approach the situation with a “Work of Heart” mentality. I tried to understand his perspective, communicate more effectively, and create a supportive living environment for both of us.

I took time to learn more about autism and its various manifestations. This has allowed me to be more understanding of his behaviors and communication style. I can now interact with him in a way that is more considerate and respectful. I recognized the importance of respecting his need for structure and routine, and I made a conscious effort to accommodate his preferences within our common living space.

I try to have open and honest communication with my roommate. When I discovered my snacks were disappearing daily, I talked to him and explained that I depended on that food being there for a quick snack in between classes, because I didn’t have time to make a full meal. He apologized, not realizing that I was relying on that food being there. I encourage him to tell me his needs and concerns too. This approach has helped us establish a sense of trust and mutual respect. We have created a supportive living environment where we can both succeed.

I have also tried to include my roommate in social activities. By finding opportunities for him to participate in activities that he enjoys, I helped him feel more included and fostered a sense of camaraderie and friendship between us and have also met many new friends.

Although this experience has been challenging and not at all what I imagined my first two months would be like. It has been an opportunity for personal growth. I have developed a deeper understanding of autism and learned effective communication skills, empathy, and inclusivity. I am learning to approach difficulties and adversity with an open heart and a willingness to understand and connect with others.